What exactly is ETIQUETTE ??

I have asked people over time what they think of when they hear the word etiquette and usually the thoughts of older wealthy women with little dogs, tea parties, country clubs, and seemingly snooty waiters who turn their noses up at you usually come to mind.  The truth is however that the meaning of the word has nothing to do with the images of wealth and class although it is identified with it. Though many stories  about the origin of etiquette exist,  one of my favorite stories  provides a good explanation for the essence of its meaning.

The story goes that  the gardeners of  King Louis XIV  were trying to do damage control in regards to the lawns and gardens during  the lavish parties that were held at Versailles.  They would post "etiques" (signs) that would instruct the guests to keep off the grass and don't walk on the flowers.  Well, people ignored the memo and the King finally had to tell people they could not go beyond the signs themselves. The word  etiques evolved into the word etiquette which means "a ticket" and served as an invitation  to court functions which provided instructions for correct behavior and ceremonial observations while they were guests of the King and Queen at court. Today the meaning of etiquette has again evolved to define polite behavior in society.

Regardless of  where the true history of etiquette originated, it's definition of  "ticket" beautifully defines the essence of the word. Proper conduct, proper behavior, politeness and kindness which are the heartbeat of etiquette can serve as a "ticket" that can open doors of opportunity when properly utilized. My mentor Maura Graber, founder of the R.S.V.P Institute of Etiquette has shared with me that on many occasions this special "ticket" has served her well in business and in her personal life; not only opening  doors for her, but it has opened doors for those who have learned from her expertise as well. I am not implying that etiquette is some sort of magic wand to make all the "bad" go away, but I am saying that when we take the time to treat ourselves and others well, it creates opportunities to build relationships or at the least it will serve as an inspiration for others to do better.

While only 5 lucky children got the "Golden Ticket" to Willie Wonka's chocolate factory. Everyone can use etiquette as the ticket to help create golden opportunities in your life and the lives of others.