Friday, January 31, 2014

Chinese New Year Etiquette



The Lunar New Year holiday is celebrated by many Asian cultures.  It is usually celebrated over a minimum three-day period to about fifteen days surrounding the first full moon of the year. Festivities begin the day before the full moon, the day of the full moon, and the day following the full moon.

The following are some of the practices that the Chinese community  in particular observe in preparation for the arrival of the new year:

1.      Settle  all debts before the new year. The goal of settling ones debts is to begin the New Year with a clean slate  and to have sufficient funds available to provide all that will be needed to ensure a joyus celebration  will be had by all.
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2.      A thorough house cleaning. This is done before the new year to make sure that you do not sweep away any good luck.

3.      Use special paper greetings, flowers, and fruits to decorate your home.  Greeting cards and good luck symbols are tied on a blooming tree along with an abundance of fragrant flowers and fruits.  It is believed the more abundant the tree is with these  beautiful items, the more good luck the family will experience in the New Year


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4.      New clothes for the New Year. This signified starting the new year off with a clean slate. ( the color red is considered a lucky color)



5.      Celebrating the new year is a family affair with plenty of food and drink. This time is used to heal and reconcile and strengthen relationships as we transition into the New Year. Make sure all your favorite dishes, plus a few traditional are in abundance. Running water during the first day in the New Year is frowned upon because doing so denies  the earth and water a day of rest.



6.      Happy Birthday to me, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to all! Everyone becomes a year older with the New Year, no matter when your birthday is celebrated . Give children red “Lai See” envelopes with “good luck” money inside. This tradition is also used for many other festive occasions, in lieu of modern gift-giving practices. (Instructions for Lai See Etiquette are listed below)





7.      Honor Your Ancestors. Have photos of family members and loved ones on display that have passed away.  It is unfortunate they cannot be there in person with you, so honor them by holding them in remembrance.

8.      Cook, Cook, Cook, And Cook some more!  As your favorite places may be closed on New Years Day, because others in the Asian community are also celebrating, make sure you have plenty of food to last three days!



9.      Visit family, friends and build new friendships. The first day in the New Year is spent with your immediate family, the second day is often spent with good friends and special guests.  Modern traditions dictate that the third day be spent celebrating  with teachers and business associates.This is also a great opportunity to create new friendships and start the new year off together.



10.  Pay significant attention to your actions. Recognize  the first acts you perform in the New Year. Displays of anger, lying, raising your voice, indecent language and breaking anything during the first three days of the New Year is forbidden, especially the first day.




Hopefully these tips will help you celebrate with your friends in the Asian community and enjoy the wonderful traditions that accompany them.


新年快樂
Happy New Year!




Lai See Etiquette (From Geo Expat.com)


During Chinese New Year, and stretching into the following week, you may notice a flurry of red envelopes being exchanged almost everywhere you go. These fancy little red envelopes, called "lai see", are packets that contain good luck money. Giving lai see to people is a big part of Chinese New Year celebrations, so you don't want to miss out on giving (or receiving!) them in the following couple of weeks.


But giving lai see is not like handing out candy to children on Halloween (unless you're one of those grumps who don't like giving treats to the kids without costumes). There's a set of rules you have to abide by when giving out lai see.

Locals give out lai see like it's second nature to them, but in fact, there are different amounts distinguished for different people and people with different marital statuses and also people with different job positions. Starting to feel a little weary about this whole business? You'll get the hang of it once you understand proper lai see etiquette.

Lai see is bestowed from "big to small", "old to young", and "senior to junior". For example, if you are the boss or manager, you should give lai see to your employees. If you live in an apartment complex with its own management staff, you should give lai see to your security guard, cleaners, and doorman. Married couples also give to their single, younger relatives, and may give two lai see packets to each recipient (one from each spouse). If you are unmarried, you will usually only need to give one packet to each recipient.

You don't have to give lai see to everyone you know, but keep in mind that there is a chance you may forget somebody. People usually bring a pile of red envelopes with them whenever they go out, just in case they might bump into someone accidentally (and since this is Hong Kong, you probably w ill). It's best to keep a mixture of $10, $20, $50, and $100 envelopes on you to be ready at all times.The amount you put in the lai see is up to you, Use this handy guide to avoid any lai see faux-pas! Don’t forget to give and receive with both hands as this is regarded as a sign of courtesy. Also, never let children give out lai sees to older folk or service staff – this is considered insulting.
Who? How Much?
Security guard / door man / building management team / cleaning staff $20 - $50 per person, more if you’re in a smaller building with a single guard/cleaner
Helper / driver $100 (for part-time helpers) - $500
Staff (if you’re the boss) $50 - $500
Colleagues and friends $20 - $100
Waitress or waiter/ barista / anyone who serves you regularly $20 - $50
Hairdresser, manicurist, massage therapist, etc. $50 - $100

Thursday, January 30, 2014

For Crying Out Loud



Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners.

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 Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners. 

-Laurence Sterne
Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners.

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Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Social Graces in History- Why men tip their hats



Seeing this can be very intimidating, I would want him to lift his mask to let me know his intent was friendly how about you?


When knights in medieval times wanted to express friendly intent, they would raise their face masks and reveal their faces. The practice of saluting is also derived from this practice the knights created.   Lifting one's armor mask eventually evolved into the custom of "tipping" one's hat to greet or acknowledge another, women  in particular. When knights would enter a building, removing their helmet signified a peaceful position, since a knight could not fight or defend himself without the helmet.  Since the removal of his helmet made him vulnerable, it informed others that combat or any type of violence was not his motive. This practice also evolved into the removal of one's hat when entering a building, when hearing the national anthem and in different situations where they would not be going back out in public immediately. Men would hold their hats in their hand when speaking with a lady but would put it back on when they began to walk together if out in public. It is amazing to see how these common courtesies have their roots in codes of conduct and communication from ancient practices to ensure a peaceful position was maintained in certain situations.

Imagine being a lady passing by and being treated to this!

It's 2014!!

MAY YOUR NEW YEAR BE ONE  OF HOPE AND HAPPINESS!

-DEMITA

Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Cosplay Etiquette



Conventions such as Comi-Con and E3 are becoming very popular all over the world. Fans of  animae (Japanese Animation), Star Trek, Star, Wars, DC and Marvel Comics, etc. create costumes of their favorite characters or create their own character and come to these conventions to show off their talents  and to admire the talent and skills other fans.The popularity of this art form has grown to the point that there are Cosplayers that do it professionally for a living and there is even a reality show that profiles Cosplayers competing or making appearances at different events. They too however have a code of conduct that they want adhered, so if you  are a newbie, here are some points to keep in mind before you approach the guy dressed like Ironman or the gal dressed like Wonder Woman.

Always Ask First, Cosplay Is Not Consent

If  you see your favorite character and just have to have a photo of or with them, want to have a chat, maybe ask for a hug or just want to give them a big high five for being awesome, ASK. If they refuse for any reason, please respect that! They are not rude to politely decline your request and may have specific reasons for not wanting photos taken of them or are avoiding  physical contact with fans or fellow cosplayers. It is never okay to try and ‘sneak’ a photo if they have specifically told you no or to sneak physical contact with any private areas of a Cosplayer’s body, this is considered sexual assault (male or female) even if that was not your intention.




Respect Their Costume and Personal Space

Cosplayers enjoy their hard work being admired, but that is not permission to  touch their costume or any accompanied props/weapons without asking first. The costume and/or prop could be very fragile, and you don't want to damage what they've worked so hard on - especially if they are competeting in a  Cosplay competition!



No Surprise Hugs or 'Glomps'

 Surprising a cosplayer with a hug or 'glomp' is unacceptable,there's nothing worse than being startled by an overzealous fan. Physical contact of an unwanted nature can be interpreted as assault or  harassment, with all the legal penalties that apply. Respect the cosplayer’s personal space.



Be Kind and Considerate

Cosplayers differ in terms of age, size and skill level, so please do not criticize someone else's costume. Cosplayers participate for many reasons, but mostly for the love of the art form and Cosplayers want to share that in common with everyone. I understand there are fans and Cosplayers who are purists when it comes to how their favorite characters are represented and may get annoyed if the image of their favorite character is compromised, BUT out of respect for others, keep your opinions of another Cosplayer's work to yourself unless it is solicited.




The more I research, the more I find that the basic premise of etiquette is to be respectful to yourself and others. Whether you are a Gamer, Cosplayer, Trekkie, etc. no matter how the rules are worded, people want to be respected.

On that note, enjoy the world of Cosplay and the handiwork of the 100 different Batmans, Spocks, or Spidermans you may encounter.

Cheers!